I Hope you learn sooner rather than later, life is not easy. When looking through the eyes of children, life seems a little like a game. You have a problem, and there’s usually some adult around to fix it, or at least make it better. Somehow, everything always works out. But the truth is, life is not easy. It’s not designed to be. Besides everyday living having rough edges, we’ve gotten soft. We default to words and thinking like “I can’t” and “I don’t know“ and even “No” as a signal to others and ourselves that the conversation is over, we quit, end of discussion. We use that technique everywhere from school, to relationships, to personal struggles. As a result, we now have hordes of young people growing up without learning the art of fighting through hard times. Why? Because we’ve made comfort more important than learning to fight for our goals.
We must realize in our own lives, and pass on to those coming after us, that there will be moments when nothing goes your way. There may be times of being confused, unsure, Lonely, tired, and not being able to see how things are going to work out. Don’t quit. Winners don’t quit, they push through and they use what others call failures as learning experiences and steppingstones. Winners push through. They wrestle with problems until the answer shows up. They learn to dig deep within themselves at a time when others are walking away. That is how you build mental and emotional muscle.
We Don’t do ourselves or our children any favors by shielding them from all of life’s hardships. In many instances, we Handicap them. Having to struggle to succeed is not the enemy, but the classroom. It prepares you to take on the issues of life when they come your way. You have to learn what you’re good at and what you have to get better at if you want to win life’s battles. You’ll have to learn to fight as you grow. If you let them, problems will sideline you quicker than you can say your own name. Without training by life’s experiences, you won’t know how to hit back, and you’ll Crumble when you face them.
One of the best things that could ever happen to you is when you realize: you are going to have to battle with life every day … BUT YOU CAN DEFINITELY WIN.
You have to learn to speak to yourself, and change your mindset from one of victim to victor. Every morning before you start your day tell yourself: “No matter what happens today, I will push through. I will find a way. I will get stronger.” Don’t wait or depend on other people to come and tell you those things, because they may never show up. Learn to affirm yourself, to pump yourself up with positivity, truth and strength. You are you’re number one encourager. If no one else tells you those things, it’s OK. You will at least hear them from yourself and they can help you change your state of mind and get the job done.
We have to learn to toughen up. Our future, our goals may depend upon it.
Write out your affirmations and put them in places They can be readily seen: “I’m tougher than my problems. I’m not quitting. I’m pushing through.” … And then get busy doing it.
Note: When you’ve learned the art of pushing through and making your dreams happen … teach somebody else how to do it, also.